Hello, Shel! Welcome to IAWP.
I truly believe that if you go the very very slow taper route, you'll be able to make it. The most difficult, from a psychological point of view, is to start it. Once you know you've come 10% of the way, then 20%, then 30%, you will be getting stronger, and you will start realizing that you're able to continue it until you're completely off of the drugs.
As for headaches, I hadn't had those prior to the drugs, and even not that much when I was on them, but it got really bad in early WD, then started to improve as time passed.
Stay strong!
