Synchronistically, I’m having to deal with some similar internal work as well. I haven’t been very involved with my family for many years, but some recent events have made me have to re-visit my guilt, fear, anger, hurt about how I just do not fit well with this family. I am so different from them. We see things very differently.
You’re going through a major life transformation. Have you taken a look at this essay? Don’t read it if the first couple of pages don’t grab you, but it might be helpful for making sense of what you’re going through –
http://neuroscienceandpsi.blogspot.c...rtium-non.html
I don’t think your experiences are random. I think you’re having to face the problems that are really there in your family relationships. Then, you have choice about what you want to do about it, always keeping in mind that you cannot control other people or make them see you. :)
It’s not empty change. You are being nudged to grow, become more conscious. It’s hard. And it’s not entirely clear what you really want to do with your life, but this is the path to finding out. It’s really hard tolerating not knowing where you’re going, but that is often part of the path for a long time. See that essay.
You may sense that you’re supposed to let go of some things for now. But, that doesn’t mean you can just make yourself let go. It will have to be a process.