How to deal with life stressors and Withdrawal depression

[Needinghelp]

My life stressors just keeps on getting worse. My boyfriend is pressurizing me so much to get a place with him. I dont feel ready, i feel way too sick and out of it to do that right now, but he says if i dont hes going to move away and ill only see him once a week if im lucky. I dont know what to do anymore. Im under stress and pressure at work, the stress at home is so bad, my mom has developed anxiety and i dont know what to do. I feel so incapable of doing anything. I feel so brain damaged, i cant think anymore, everything is extremely fuzzy and i feel so confused. I have this deep sadness and depression and im not sure how to cope anymore. I feel like im the edge of the clif and if i get one more push im going to fall off.

Any suggestions?

Im sorry im posting so much. Im just so hopeless and i dont have anyone else to talk to. No one. Just here.

[Chris]

It hard to take care of others when our own needs aren't being met. Sometimes we have to take a me first attitude. I know I have a deep set belief that I don't deserve to get my own needs met. I have to overcome this. The pressure from your boyfriend doesn't sound right. ultimatums are a red flag . . .
this is a tactic I don't trust

[Iggy131313]

You know what? Just seeing your BF once a week might just be what you need at the moment...you should take your evenings to rest and do what you can to help you to heal. Honestly NH, Your doing so much better than me if you can go and see you BF etc, I find it hard to speak to anyone including my husband and son

[Sheila]

You’re doing a great job, NH. You’re gonna get through this.

The people around us get threatened by this bizarre recovery. They are scared, feel inadequate, may not be getting the attention from you that they are used to, may feel guilty, etc.

Have you really educated your boyfriend about w/d? If you want IAWP to be *your* place, you could suggest your bf and mother go to pp and SA for support about caring for someone in w/d. They need support to support you well. It is not something people can do very well without guidance. There’s the aspect of it being like any serious, new illness. But then there are the extreme hypersensitivities which people need to have explained to them.

You *can* help them to help you more. Everybody you are close to is going to have to learn and grow from this experience. They *can* learn.